Higgenbotham's Dark Age Hovel

[Guest]

Dark Age Chronicles

We had a form that we were told needed to be notarized but it didn't have the proper format for the notary to put their info and seal. Typical pre dark age dilemma. We went to the big bank we have an account at and, though they did have someone available, he told us, no, they can't do it because it has to be done properly. I agreed and we tried the UPS Store and same response. So my wife said she had seen a notary place down in the Hispanic neighborhood and she drove it down there and got it notarized for free.

I'll just continue this when the really notable stuff comes up. Things like this have been typical for several years.

Getting something notarized in Asia is an expensive and completely unnecessarily complicated nightmare.

[Higgenbotham]

The State of Marriage as Seen Through my Eyes Through 50 plus Years

When I say I saw these things, it doesn't mean all of these things were necessarily mainstream. But I saw them multiple times for a brief time and it was only a characteristic of that time in history.

1968: Born in the late 1940s (older kids in the town I grew up in). You graduated high school. You went into the military or trade school, or maybe you didn't. Didn't matter. You meet a girl, or you already met a girl a long time ago. Doesn't matter. You know you can go down to the local factory and get a job that supports a family. Doesn't matter which one. If you don't like that job, you can quit that one in the morning and go down the street and get another one and start the new one that afternoon. You get married, paint "Just Married" on the side of your car, and ride around town with other people who just got married that day too. It will be 6 years before Tough Tittie starts. Life is good.

1975: Born early 1940s (younger friends of my parents - 1 real life example). Your married life is boring. You have 2 kids and your husband is well established and successful in his career. Tough Tittie has started, but you hardly notice. You are 35 and wonder how you missed the sexual revolution that is supposedly going on all around you. Your friends who were born in the 1930s fight with their husbands a lot, but they stay together for the sake of the kids. You wonder why. You begin a torrid affair with a studly construction worker and divorce.

1985: Born early 1960s (my friends - 2 real life examples). You graduated college just a year ago and landed a good job. Multiple girls are already hunting you. I'm talking to a friend of mine at a party and an attractive girl I've never seen before walks up him and asks why he didn't call her when he had promised to. We are drunk. He starts lying through his teeth and the lies are so ridiculous I start to laugh. She walks away disgusted. I apologize to him for laughing and he says don't worry about it. That same year, another friend and I go out to a bar. An extremely attractive girl has been sort of stalking him. She is a new teacher at the high school. She "finds" us and he tells me he has to go take a piss and to "blow some shit at" her. I sit down with her and tell her that several girls had asked Mike to dance but he had said he is with her now and wouldn't dance with them. This is a complete lie but I am very convincing. He eyes open wide and she says, "Really? REALLY?!" I assure her that it is true. A year or so later he gets a promotion to Dallas and they get married and have a family. The first guy gets another job in his home town of Minneapolis and he gets married and has a family too.

1998: Born in the late 1960s (my friends - 2 real life examples). They are already in their 30s and single. They don't want to be. Joe and I are talking about this and he says, "If this was 30 years ago, we would be married, and Brian would be married and cheating." We laugh hard because it is so true. Today they are both finally married but neither has any kids.

2023: Born in 2000 (my nephew - 1 real life example). He is 6"4", good looking, has a good job, and is living at home. He has given up on dating and is celibate. He says all the girls are woke and it is useless. Several years ago, my sister still hadn't caught up with the change (she got married in 1986 - see above) and had said he would find a nice girl and get married. I thought it might be possible for him, so didn't inform her of what he is now telling her. This will change too.

[Guest]

You forgot to add that woke women now rarely marry (and divorce quickly if they do) and end up homeless or living with their parents, and eventually become homeless after their parents die. Some will become unwed mothers, many with POC children. They will dye their hair blue, get a nose ring, and gain 100 pounds, at least. They will become self-proclaimed 'riot gurls' and openly hate white males, including their own sons (if they are white). These women are all miserable, and today few even try to hide it. This is what I see already.

Men who are unmarried and childless are now the luckiest people in the world. They are free. Yes, wokeness has wrecked everything, but you can move on. Women will hate you for it. The world is still and always will belong to to men.

All the women I see know who drive expensive cars are married to men with who have some money. Few women can really make it on their own. Women also need men more than men need women. Most men are easily contented; women, not at all. Men want peace and quiet; women don't know what they want. That is why women generally make poor co-workers and managers.

I am exhausted. However, I have money, am debt free, and healthy. I have no desire to marry or have children. Treat women with indifference and you will better off. Eat healthy, exercise, get out and do things. The world is almost over, enjoy it while it lasts.

[Nawa]

At this point, I want out of the US altogether but not an option thanks to shared custody so I’m trapped here for another 8 yrs.

[Higgenbotham]

The State of Marriage as Seen Through my Eyes Through 50 plus Years

When I say I saw these things, it doesn't mean all of these things were necessarily mainstream. But I saw them multiple times for a brief time and it was only a characteristic of that time in history.

1975: Born early 1940s (younger friends of my parents - 1 real life example). Your married life is boring. You have 2 kids and your husband is well established and successful in his career. Tough Tittie has started, but you hardly notice. You are 35 and wonder how you missed the sexual revolution that is supposedly going on all around you. Your friends who were born in the 1930s fight with their husbands a lot, but they stay together for the sake of the kids. You wonder why. You begin a torrid affair with a studly construction worker and divorce.

The Awakening's sexual revolution hit the Silent at an awkward phase
of life, just when they had kids at home. This transformed them into Bob
and Carol and Ted and Alice, what Rose Franzblau described as “a
generation of jealousies and role reversals.” Silent men felt
claustrophobic, Silent women resentful. Both sexes found ways to break
free after asking what Benita Eisler termed “the question that signals the
end of every marriage: ‘Is this all there is?’ “From 1969 through 1975, as
the Silent surged into state legislatures, the number of states with no-
fault divorce laws jumped from zero to forty-five. While all generations
joined the divorce epidemic, the Silent showed the steepest age bracket
rise and emerged with the deepest residual guilt.

The midlife Silent discovered eros with the zest that comes to those
who have missed it in their own youth. Fortyish men studied to become
expert lovers, and “liberated” males pursued what John Updike called a
“Post-Pill Paradise.” Barrier-busting impresarios launched Playboy clubs,
R-rated movies, and nude plays on Broadway Looking up and down the
age ladder for cues, Silent men assembled a composite definition of
masculinity. The result was a hodgepodge of role models who combined
G.I. confidence with Boomer sensitivity (Merlin Olsen, Carl Sagan), G.I.
machismo with Boomer judgmentalism (Clint Eastwood, Charles
Bronson), or a neurotic muddle (Alan Alda, Woody Allen). Others
became America's first “out of the closet” gay politicians (Harvey Milk,
Barney Frank) and celebrity transves-tites (Christine Jorgensen, Renee
Richards). Thus whipsawed, many Silent felt like one of Gail Sheehy's
subjects who wished “somebody would let me be what I am, tender
sometimes, and dependent, too, but also vain and greedy and jealous
and competitive.”

Many Silent women resented having allowed themselves to become
Stepford Wives, limited to household chores and child care while their
husbands' careers soared. And many looked more skeptically upon vows
of fealty in an era when many a midlife married man succumbed to what
Barbara Gordon called “Jennifer Fever,” an attraction to sexually
liberated younger women. The youngest- and most-married female
generation in U.S. history began prefixing themselves with Gloria
Steinem's status-cloaking “Ms.” while fortyish divorcees began
commanding media attention, demanding legal equality, and starting
midlife careers. Adopting the younger Boomers' assaultive oratory, Silent
feminists like Kate Millett, Susan Brownmiller, and Ti-Grace Atkinson
attacked “man the oppressor” for being a “natural predator” driven by
“metaphysical cannibalism.” The gender-role partnership that had once
satisfied midlife G.I.s was now in total shambles.

As middle-aged men and women began shattering conventions and
taking more career and family risks—switching spouses, changing
careers, dabbling in therapy—the “midlife passage” entered the pop
lexicon. Ever since Silent authors Daniel Levinson and Gail Sheehy
discovered what the latter called this “refreshing” life-cycle event, nearly
everyone who has written about it has belonged to their generation. By
the height of the Awakening, many Silent looked back on the High and
felt, with Bob Dylan, “Ah, but I was so much older then, / I'm younger
than that now” As William Styron remarked in 1968, “I think that the
best of my generation—those in their late thirties or early forties—have
reversed the customary rules of the game and have grown more radical
as they have gotten older, a disconcerting but healthy sign.” In Future
Shock, Alvin Toffler developed a new “transience index” that quantified
the breaking up of human relationships. Thanks to Toffler's own peers,
that index shot upward through the latter half of the Awakening. While
Daniel Ellsberg and Joyce Brothers pushed to get more secrets out, Phil
Donahue and Ruth Westheimer pushed to get more talk going, all in the
hope that more data and dialogue would somehow build a better society.

[Higgenbotham]

Median age at first marriage has possibly peaked and turned down. That could mean that a new crop of young people is ready to assume more traditional roles because they see the coming crisis, and marginal improvement in entry level wages in some areas due to deaths and disabilities. Strauss and Howe discuss this in The Fourth Turning.

Near the end of the Unraveling, 13ers will start tiring of all the motion
and options. Feeling less Generation X than a generation exhausted, they
will want to reverse their life direction.

Their attitude toward risk will change. Those who are doing well will
reveal a young-fogey siege mentality that discourages further risk taking.
High-achieving married 13ers will push family life toward a pragmatic
form of social conservatism. Restoring the single-earner home will be a
male priority; restoring the reliability of marriage will be a feminist
priority. Late-born 13ers will start marrying and having babies younger,
partly to avoid the risks of serial sex and harassment at work, but also to
get a head start on saving and homeowning. By the end of the
Unraveling, the median age at first marriage will be lower than it is
today.

In time, even 13ers without good jobs will take comfort in their
toeholds on the American Dream. On the whole, they will appreciate the
worth and precariousness of whatever good fortune they have achieved
and will fear how far they could fall if they ever lost it. Many will
scrupulously avoid risk in their personal lives, even if they still have no
choice but to keep taking long shots in their work lives. They will
become intensely frugal, loyal to kin, faithful to spouses, and protective
of children. They will not take a close and supportive family for granted;
building one will be an achievement in which they will take great pride.
“Been there, done that” will be their parental attitude toward sex, whose
dangers they will be determined to shield from children. As 13ers cordon
off their self-contained lives, older critics will find fault with a home life
that will strike some as too much family and not enough values.

"Late-born 13ers will start marrying and having babies younger...By the end of the Unraveling, the median age at first marriage will be lower than it is today."

This was written by Strauss and Howe in 1998 and they were referring to those born around 1980, near the tail end of Generation X, applied to an Unraveling that they had projected would end around 2005.

[12345]

With open borders and the breakdown of law and order in America and Europe, not mention the very real dangers of Critical Race Theory and White Fragility, none of this will come to pass. We have already entered a post-American era and are deep into a breakdown crisis. We are entering a new Dark Age. I agree with Higgenbotham in that regard. However, it is going to be a lot worse than Higgenbotham has predicated. We are heading for a near extinction level series of events. I doubt I'll see the other side. I don't think many of us will.

Thank you for this board, Mr. Xenakis, and thank you for this thread Mr. Higgenbotham and the "guests".

[Guest]

With the near absence of law enforcement from the cities, out of control violent crime, and even poor street maintenance, things are beginning to give. The decay is now everywhere. Even Paris now looks like an African garbage dump.

Why have our leaders allowed all of this? This is why conspiracy theories are so popular. It doesn't make any sense to destroy the West. None.

[aeden]

With the near absence of law enforcement from the cities, out of control violent crime, and even poor street maintenance, things are beginning to give. The decay is now everywhere. Even Paris now looks like an African garbage dump.

Why have our leaders allowed all of this? This is why conspiracy theories are so popular. It doesn't make any sense to destroy the West. None.

You see, the real value of a conflict, the true value, is in the debt that it creates. You control the debt, you control everything.
"The New World Order will have to be built from the bottom up rather than from the top down ... but an end run on national sovereignty, eroding it piece by piece will accomplish much more than the old-fashioned frontal assault."
- Richard Gardner - Council on Foreign Relations Journal, April 1974, Page 558

[tim]

https://www.rbth.com/history/327695-fem ... ia-history

Following the February 1917 revolution, women organizations launched rallies and sparked debates in the media, putting pressuring on the Interim Government to grant women voting rights. It did, and Russia became one of the first European countries where female citizens enjoyed the right to vote.

Following the Bolshevik Revolution in October 1917, Alexandra Kollontai was named People's Commissar for Social Welfare, becoming the first female minister in the world. The main “feminist among Marxists,” Kollontai established and worked in the Zhenotdel (a governmental organization supporting Soviet women) from 1919 to 1930. She was also an advocate of the notion of “free love,” meaning here that emancipated women were free to choose and change their partners.

Nevertheless, the euphoria didn’t last long. Under Joseph Stalin, the system turned its attention back to the traditional family. The state banned abortions and suppressed romantic relationships outside of marriage. Additionally, as Svetlana Aivazova explained, “mothers’ function became more complicated…they had to support their families, as one salary wasn’t enough to provide.”

https://jacobin.com/2017/05/women-worke ... y-feminism

Women workers were firmly in the forefront of the February Revolution that culminated in the destruction of tsarism. They were not merely its “spark,” but the motor that drove it forward — despite the initial misgivings of many male workers and revolutionaries.

Six weeks after the October Revolution, marriage was replaced with civil registration and divorce became available at the request of either partner. These measures were elaborated a year later in the Family Code, which made women equal before the law. Religious control was abolished, removing centuries of institutionalized oppression at a stroke; divorce could be obtained by either partner with no reason given; women had the right to their own money and neither partner had rights over the other’s property. The concept of illegitimacy was eradicated — if a woman did not know who the father was, all her previous sexual partners were given collective responsibility for the child. In 1920, Russia became the first country to legalize abortion on request.

https://www.telesurenglish.net/news/The ... -0045.html

”No party or revolution in the world has ever dreamed of striking so deep at the roots of the oppression and inequality of women as the Soviet, Bolshevik revolution is doing,” Lenin observed in 1921. “Over here, in Soviet Russia, no trace is left of any inequality between men and women under the law. The Soviet power has eliminated all there was of the especially disgusting, base and hypocritical inequality in the laws on marriage and the family and inequality in respect of children.”

“This is only the first step in the liberation of woman. But none of the bourgeois republics, including the most democratic, has dared to take even this first step,” he added.

In 1922, with the creation of the USSR, the Soviet government sought to socialize housework. This was done by creating things such as public nurseries, kindergartens, kitchens and public laundries. The idea was to reduce household labor to a minimum, allowing women the freedom to pursue waged work, education and enjoy leisure time on par with men.